Self Confidence

Someone with genuine self-confidence is simply having a confident thought about themselves. That’s all. It really is that simple.

The definition of self-confidence is “a feeling of trust in one’s abilities, qualities, and judgment.”

When you have self-confidence, you trust your ability to do something or figure something out, but not necessarily in your ability to do it right now. You just know that if and when you want to, you can. I used to not know that. Instead I would get lost in the rabbit hole of comparison and forget the person took time and effort to gain that skill, I had not. Once I realized I could trust my ability to do something or figure it out, I let go of wishing I could do “x, y and z” like so and so. And enjoyed the thought, “I could if I wanted to” and know that was true.

If you are trying to get confidence from your actions and results, you will struggle to feel it. There’s really only one place that you can get it, and that’s your mind.

Self-confidence comes from your thoughts. It comes from your thoughts about yourself. What are the thoughts you allow to run through your mind day to day about yourself? Are they thoughts of self-confidence? My guess is for most of you, they are not.

One thing that generates the most self-confidence is just knowing that you’re 100% worthy. You’re worthy because you were born. Period. That’s it. You are 100% worthy, 100% of the time. Own it.

Confidence is always going to come from a space of believing and trusting that you can do whatever it is you want to do, that even when you make a mistake, or fall short, you will show up as the next best version of yourself, no matter what.

If you live your whole life seeking your self-confidence from other people’s approval, you’re always going to be seeking. You’re never going to land in a place where you feel confident so stop seeking. If you are seeking the approval of your stepkids, you could be waiting a long time. Don’t wait. You approve of you.

When you’re trying new things, big things, you’re going to need to rely on courage to see you through. Confidence with fear mixed in, is courage. It takes courage to be a stepmom. This is new and it’s big. But you’ve got it and that’s what will keep you moving forward.